The million dollar question while battling the effects of a break up is “how do I know when I am over my ex?” We’ve come to the end of this guide of how to get over your ex girlfriend. By now you should understand your feelings and what to do about them. You should be aware of the potential destruction to your well being if you make the wrong choices and listen to the wrong people. More importantly, you should now be making steps to getting over your ex and creating a better future for yourself.
If you’re carrying out the advice here I promise you can’t go wrong. Anyway, back to that burning question; “so how do I know when I am I am over my ex?”
Well as usual, I have opinions on this…
. She is rarely on your mind
After spending almost every waking hour of thinking about her, she’s been replaced with every day thoughts. Sounds like bliss? Don’t worry, you’ll get there.
. She’s dating someone else and you’re cool about it
You’re so cool about it that you can think about her having sex with another guy without that gut-wrenching feeling of intense jealousy.
. You don’t recognise your old broken-hearted self
You remember being that broken man and you know that you once struggled, but you can’t believe it was you and you’re almost embarrassed.
. You’re genuinely falling for another person
A new girl has taken your fancy and you sincerely like her for her own charms and attributes.
. You can go to places where your ex might be without worrying you’ll see her.
Also, you don’t have that wandering eye looking out for her everywhere you go.
. You no longer feel the need to compare or compete
I touched upon how you shouldn’t try to compete or race, but I know in the midst of anguish it’s hard not to. When you’ve stopped doing this, you’ll be well on your way.
Finally, the most important one:
. You feel apathy towards her
You can think about your ex girlfriend without feeling sad, happy or any defined emotion. You remember that you were once happy together and you are thankful for the good times you shared together, yet don’t feel any sentimental nostalgia about it. Hell, you may even wish her well. (I’m serious and yes, I too would never have believed me either).
I know through my experiences that I am over my ex girlfriend by only feeling one of the above – the rest just cements the fact.
So here we are at the end of the guide…
For those of you who are over your ex girlfriend, I encourage you to not forget your journey. I say this because if this situation happens again (I really hope it doesn’t), you will be well equipped for it the second time around. Also if this guide has helped you to get over your ex girlfriend, I’d love to hear your success story. More importantly, the people at the deepest stages of post break up here will need to hear it for hope. I thank you for reading and wish you the best in your future, don’t be a stranger.
For those of you who are not yet over your ex girlfriend, I encourage you to stay strong, focused and to use this guide for periodic inspiration and also to read it more than once. Spaced repetition will help you to take in more information and it will be grained in your sub consciousness, helping you to fend of them unsupportive thoughts that only hold you back. Remember to register for free in the forum and you’re never alone in this situation. Along with the other resources, use the audio option on top for reinforcement too – I apologise about my fucked up concoction of an accent I did try my best to speak some standard level of English!
Thank you to everyone who has taken time to read this guide. I put a lot of my heart and soul in to this because I am passionate about helping people to get out of this rut and to move forward with their lives like I have. With a bit of fight inside you and an open mind, anything is possible. If you’d like to leave me some feedback of the guide or to leave any success stories, then write to me with the subject “feedback” in my contacts at the top of the page. I’m always looking to improve this guide so don’t be shy in telling me of improvements I need on here, my skin is thick
All the best